"Life can be really
fun when I mind my own business," phoned my Swiss friend Georgina. She
was filled with spit and vinegar sharing her newly acquired
understanding as a student of the University of Healing philosophy. She
talked at length, unconcerned about her cost in the long distance call,
so happy to share her expanding experience with me:
"The other day I went
to town to buy a special dinner for my family. I entered my favorite
gourmet store where the display of amazing epicurean food is the center
point of gastronomic attraction for everyone passing by. I am in my full
element mentally snooping around, already tasting each mouthwatering
goodie. In awe over these incredible creative selections, I am now
ready, with big eager eyes, to make my delicious choice.
"Filled with enthusiasm
for such great alternatives-yet I allow myself to be distracted by a big
German shepherd leading a young man walking into the store. You know,"
she reminded me, "dogs are allowed in restaurants but not in food stores
in Switzerland. This is a big no-no. I thought that the man was blind
using his dog as his reliable guide, but not so. I got all shook up as
this man walked straight into the meat and fish department-an even
greater no-no-where quietly and uninhibitedly he stood in line waiting
his turn to be served, his dog patiently sitting at his side.
"The stranger looked
homeless in his casual partly-torn clothing and his
long-uncombed-uncared-for-blond beard and hair. Stunned by his poor
outer appearance, I was more amazed that he had the guts to enter this
very elegant Lugano gourmet store with his big so obviously seen
dog than his poor outfit.
"To my next surprise I
noticed that there was not another person in the store who turned their
attention to the stranger with the dog; there was not another person who
even seemed to notice either the visitor or his dog here in the food
store. I was stunned when I realized that I was the only person, in
point of fact, aware of this man. Actually, I was the only one not
minding my own business.
"I thought surely all I
observed was not true! Something in me shouted at ME saying: It is me!
It is the reflection of my own thinking creating this ‘pitiable’
undesirable man with his dog in my food store.
"Then, you know Ellen,"
she sighed, "I got the message. I woke up realizing how opinionated I am
about such a prosaic situation which in the first place is not of my
business. I remembered my UNI lesson on the subject Minding Your Own
Business and instantly said, Yes, Georgina, mind your own business!
"I now understand," she
proclaimed, "Judgment is involved in not minding my own business. It is
subtle. It is a habit. That such an event as this young man and his dog
could steal my attention and shake me up, simply amazing."
Yes, I agreed with
Georgina, praising her openness and eagerness to be aware, to understand
and to apply her lessons.
There was not much to
say as Georgina was alert realizing that life is a mirror, an onepointed
mirror of everything I believe and think. Every experience is a reminder
to me as to where I am on my spiritual-human path.
Minding my own business
seems so simple, so natural and yet it is a challenge to live by it one
-Dr Ellen Jermini